We were dealt a serious blow in California, make no mistake about it.

Not to mention in the states of Florida and Arizona, which also added same sex marriage bans to their state constitutions, and Arkansas, which illegalized any adoption by gay couples.

But I'm still confident that history is eventually on the side of justice. As is demographics.

In every one of those states' exit polls, surveys consistently found that voters 30 and under - across all income, racial and gender categories - tended to vote no on all of those initiatives: the younger, the more progressive. On average, national trends all seem to indicate that more and more Americans are in favor of some kind of legal recognition for gay couples.

This isn't coincidental at all. Older traditionalists with bigoted views are dying off, younger people with modern views are becoming voters. The only question is how to create an effective infrastructure to codify these changing attitudes into the law, as well as oppose conservative efforts to turn back the clock on personal freedoms.

For better or for worse, Prop 8 was a bucket of ice cold water. We were lazy and complicit while the Church of Mormon tossed millions of dollars and thousands of volunteers into California. As long as there is organized resistance anywhere in the country to equality, we will have a hell of a fight ahead of us - even in liberal California.